Moreover, it’s not a bad thing at all and is, in fact, an indication of increased awareness and sensitivity. Do you want people who inspire you to work and achieve and accomplish, or would you rather surround yourself with people who are happy with what they have? I mean, does it not make sense that the most you “try” to fit in, the more you won’t be able to? You can surround yourself with people but you won’t really feel connected with any of them if you’re only using a mask. I also feel like my parents always compares me with my two sisters. I feel there it’s no good in people anymore and because I’m empathetic I get constantly screwed over… I’m a sentient being with a fragile heart and I’m breaking into a trillion pieces… This is not my home. Their way is about “enjoying” life by destroying it. To avoid seeming awkward or even arrogant, loosen up by asking people questions instead of talking the lead. Don’t worry. Not in ‘earlier times’, or ‘in a different generation’, but an entirely different world. Doctors label you as depressed or antisocial and want to dope you up on drugs to make you feel and act like society thinks you should. I always think that I am not my mother's biological daughter, but I am her adopted daughter. This habit creates a discord between how people perceive us and who we really are. At all. The thing is: If we, who have something (or a lot more) to offer, decide to leave this world, this fucking beautiful but aching world, the who the hell will be left to save it? When we are with her family or her friends, I feel like I am an outsider and that I don’t belong there. Old souls often feel like they don’t belong here, especially when growing up. a smile unlocks part of there soul whether or not there hood or bad it goes on and on what I makes it incredibly easy to connect on because I can respond exactly to there needs to get the reaction I need. var _g1; My friendship group mainly came from my old high school days. And I am worried of a world that seems to be being put in smaller and smaller boxes while we lose more and more options to react. I don’t belong in this time and space. So it makes sense why individuals capable of deep thought may feel like they don’t belong here. To me it seems most people are motivated mainly by greed and fear, and are almost exclusively focused on themselves. Friends are constantly inviting you to parties and office mates are asking you for a round of drinks, and yet you still feel like you’re floating aimlessly in an empty universe. I’m always alone and it’s killing me. Politics are at the center of every single thing and regardless of where you stand on them you are ostracized and belittled into obscurity for not being enough X or being too much Y because nobody respects others anymore. We share articles just like the one you’re reading right now. The point is that it should fill your life with meaning and happiness. Me, you, her and him would be and do better. It’s a little lonely right now but take comfort in knowing that somewhere out there, there are people who are just like you wondering where you are. Coming from someone who constantly fits in ALL 4 of these categories; helped me get a better insight on my life. Not enough understanding within me…, It hurts to say this but I’m all of those and it hurts but thank you for posting this you are a great person even though I’m crying as I type this. There are times when I feel like I don’t belong here.. Like my presence on this planet is some cosmic accident. I feel like I don’t belong when my family goes to Desi parties – this is exactly why Gender-segregated parties and weddings have, to some extent, always been a part of my life. I say these because I want to hear them myself and I need to move that way first. Will it get better? So, I’m truly alone. Why It Happens and How to Cope, The Power of Misfits: How to Find Your Place in a World You Don’t Fit In. Did any of the above-described things ring true for you? People tell me I need to “snap out of it” but I feel like if I do then I will lose sight of what is on the other side of that wall. And its only getting worse. I feel slightly nerdy if I dare admit, like I am into reading, starting up businesses and never really drink unless its one glass per week, if that but hardly anything as drinking doesnt really do anything for me and the whole social scene with groups of girls I just don't get, like I feel I am some strange weirdo and always leave early not wanting to be the same as them. I’m so sorry for your PTSD, hugs to you and your lady.. tell her she is an angel for being with you. You’re doing well just the way you are and you already possess a lot of awesome qualities that make you an amazing friend. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. So my mom was diagnosed with cancer a couple months ago, she''s been staying home from work and in that time has changed completely, she doesn't feel like my mom anymore. Our personal values shape the people we are, and if we constantly find ourselves disagreeing with the actions and thoughts of those who should be our friends, then we’ll never feel like we’re in the right place. I know there is a reason why things happen, and I know I have a purpose to fulfill, I just wish I knew what is is. Especially my dad. Inspired by this fact, I wrote the book The Power of Misfits: How to Find Your Place in a World You Don’t Fit In to help all those introverts, empaths, and deep thinkers who feel alien to modern society. You're not the only one who feels like you don't belong, there are tons of us. I exist. Why not to have a warlike atitude against humans? I’ve already been realizing all of this. Because even if you're the one person in the world who really, truly, absolutely has no place, you're still going to be stuck with you. It’s MY path! Learning Mind does not provide medical, psychological, or any other type of professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. What is your personal understanding of belonging? I wish I had someone to talk to (or have a connection with) on a daily basis, or even weekly. The realization that escaping to a new environment did not change who I was or how I felt hit me like a ton of bricks. And not without some pain. The human species is a plague on the earth much like the virus threatening us now and others. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Understand your personal values and try to compare those with the people around you. When you’re too preoccupied with your own thoughts, you won’t be able to be in the moment and engage naturally. I try to contribute to the conversations we have as a family and if I don’t agree with what they are saying, I … Laughter. The post resonated with me, spoke to me directly. Omg,I thought I was the only one,Elsa Our situations the same.Are we awakening from the matrix mentally?I have never been seriously loved by another human being,another ones I thought did cheated.So I’m a lone wolf now.Seems there’s Nothing left for me here to do. I felt (and still do) so … Where or how did you learn your definition of belonging. I refuse to accept. There’s a growing individual emptiness in all of us; the feeling of being lonely and alone, even when we’re surrounded by people all around. Jokes. Feeling that you belong somewhere (or even to someone) is just as important to your happiness and contentment as feeling accomplished, or feeling needed, or feeling wanted. Empaths are so sensitive to the emotions and energy of other people that they may find it uncomfortable to be around them. Well, it surely looks like that taking into consideration how almost nothing makes sense while in the same time we’re “obligated” to serve as slaves to this kind of system. I’ve always felt like an outsider. Hack Spirit is a blog by Lachlan Brown and shares practical tips and strategies to help you live a more mindful and awesome life. Whether it’s in your family or in your greater community, if you don’t really “look” like the people around you, it can be slightly more difficult to feel like you totally belong, especially when you’re the only person who doesn’t look exactly the same way as everyone else. Sorry everyone. I was abused by my ex-Husband and so I moved away from this area. When I moved away no one knew him. It's too harsh, too violent, too overwhelming. What are the exact elements that you feel would make you feel like you belong? I’ve been feeling this way for several years now. It feels like someone is waiting for me somewhere or even watching me over the years. My treasure are laid up somewhere beyond the blue. They are both closer to her than with me and I feel so excluded. If you are feeling like a misfit, you may want to read my recent articles that provide some guidance for coping with this emotional state: When the flood of comments came in response to this article, I realized that there were far more people who felt like they didn’t belong here, in this world and society, than I had imagined. I came across this post while looking into what it means/feels like to truly belong. Race should only matter when concerns of healthcare (it’s been proven what works for some races don’t work for others), but other than that who gives a damn what color your skin is. Do you value giving back to the community or raising your own wealth? ‘I Don’t Belong Anywhere’: What to Do If You Feel This Way, Do You Feel Disconnected from Reality? I don’t fit in this world. If you are an empath, you know that every time you watch a news broadcast or learn something sad about someone you know, you get truly upset. I just can’t bare the thought of moronic assholes and back-stabing traitors and lying smart-asses and generally all those selling their mother out for some gift of the system, I can’t stand them inheriting the earth and driving her to disaster. I feel like I am reaching a breaking point soon and I want to let my parents know but I don’t want to disappoint them by “disrupting the family harmony” either. I spend most of my time by myself and I have a girlfriend (live in). Our psyche and our ego are partly defined by the person we see in the mirror, and this is reinforced when we see those around us with similar traits. This is the only website I have found that talks about this. Take a look into my mind and see if you think you are the same as me. By continuing to use this website, you consent to the use of cookies in accordance with our Cookie Policy. But my two friends I do have, travel and live out of state. I Just want a bit of excitement in my life,A circle of friends that make me feel loved and valued and….and that I matter .But unfortunately…that’s not gonna happen,People ask me why I don’t seek out friends or try to socialise,My answer is not only do I feel so detached and lonely,Its also because I know for a fact when I meet people I get attached too fast,They stick by me for a couple of weeks,Months and then….When it matters most they leave…without a simple word or explanation. Being passionate about unpopular things may make others pick up on your differences and tease you for it. Here are some “everyday” habits that could make it challenging for you to connect with other people: Even in the age of oversharing, there are some people who find it difficult to open up. An old soul definitely but im thinking that’s just a small part of why I think I’m different.i found a nack in sales because I have a gift with being able to connect.there a very few humans I have not been able to not just read but see through . It feels like ultimately all endeavour is meaningless as is the void that we all inhabit, I understand the point of life being a journey and there never being a true goal but if that’s the case; a journey with no defined end can reach its end at any point, which ultimately deems the length irrelevant which also then compromises the point of the journey itself. It’s actually a pleasant warmth and comfort to know such a beautiful place exists but it brings me such grief to feel like I can’t reach it. Dang buddy, are you my son!!!!!!! Sometimes it can just be a lifetime of subtle pains and problems leading to you feeling like you could never really rely on your family to be there when you needed them. In a world saturated by interaction, it can be a little ironic that likes, shares, and comments make you feel lonelier than ever. Learning Mind is a blog created by Anna LeMind, B.A., with the purpose to give you food for thought and solutions for understanding yourself and living a more meaningful life. You can start to look for new friends as a starting point, or look for a job where you skills are valued. I m tried of this life in which people don`t think about other and do what they , don`t what to do understand and called themselves mature. I guess what I’m saying is I’m struggling with the underlying fact that ultimately there is no purpose, seems our only option is to try and fulfil the innate needs that have been evolved into us over the last 10,000 years or so in an effort to be happy. It’s this reason why the feeling of belonging can come out of nowhere, even if you felt like you’ve belonged your entire life. I have a great life and everything but it feels like im the oddball out. i think we live together, not in a relationship but just as friends living together because we understand each other. Which I’m super grateful for in my life. Introverts and people who are just naturally quiet may have a harder time finding their pack simply because they haven’t really tried engaging so much. So many questions. I feel depressed and my lungs feel painful because of the weight of this emotion. Just listening is a great way to build deeper connections with others. Some children never grow out of this and find themselves avoiding certain kinds of people, or worse, believing that they can’t ever fit in with a “cool” crowd. or are they just saying that because they want to deny the fact that sometimes I care more about certain people and things then they do? Rita Harrison HPpt I’m pro-gun person. In this podcast you will find some great tips and help with family issues, feeling unloved, feeling alone and feeling empty. Read a book Damn it. I want to just vanish from this world , i m stuck here in this world i feel no no one understands me. Very Painful life to live though. if ( localStorage.getItem(skinItemId ) ) { only for a moment and did not realize that she sees what I see. I wrote it for all of you who, just like myself, feel alien to modern society. Lately a lot has been happening in my country. What is the use of senses if you can’t communicate and be understood. Old souls often feel like they don’t belong here, especially when growing up. Feeling like you don’t truly belong is something everyone goes through. Has anyone had this? I’ve always been ‘different’. The average human just doesn’t seem to friends think I’m nuts Hope we all find our way good luck everyone. Regardless, the very existence on this beautiful planet is frustrating at least, because people who are able to do a positive change don’t have the power to do that, while the power is in the hands of the ones guided by primitive instincts and goals like power, money and destruction. It may seem shallow, but it can be surprising just how much our animal brains are influenced by the visual cues all around us. I don’t know how much longer I can take this, I can’t talk to anyone in my family without judgement or being met with an expectation that I should deal with my own issues. Yeah.. by Catherine Pratt Do you feel like an outsider, like you don’t belong anywhere or that you just don’t fit in? I’m so sick of present day society and just want to escape from it all. I hear about the Indian army raping women in Kashmir. Because to belong to a place — whether a physical place or a symbolic place — is different from being wanted or being needed there. idk. I moved back and I moved in with my daughter. Your insights are spot on. The next time you’re feeling a little lost in this busy world, try to remember one of the following things: You might not feel like you belong with your friends, but just remember that they chose you for a reason. i might finally be happy to live the rest of my life if i have you, same for you as well. It didn’t. It’s alright to feel shy. 4 Reasons Why It May Be a Good Thing, What Happens When You Say Yes When You Should Be Saying No. I asked the VA for help, but all I got was gaslighting, and literally buckets of dangerous meds. But he's a 7 month old pup. But over time, the segregation become more extreme and overt. But I’m not truly LIVING. I am lucky to have been born in a family where I am safe and privileged ,but I don’t belong here. I want to rip out my eyes so I can’t see. I think a lot of the reason its so bad for me is that, and no I can’t explain how I know this or why I know this, people of this world just…. Ultimately, feeling like you belong is just about understanding that who you are is enough. And recently I had an epiphany: I don't feel like I belong to a family. People as they are. This feeling is odd. I am away from all of this physically ,but I can’t ignore it. try { Take baby steps to build your confidence. Ever remember those kids in highschool that were “too cool” for you? This Covid 19 crisis is proving people are not cut out for a world without entertainment. It would mean so much to us if you could show your support and like our page. There’s a reason for everything, and understanding why you feel like you don’t belong will give you greater clarity for how you want to live your life in the future. She always has everything her way . Meaningless stuff is so disappointing a deep thinker, then you probably what... 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